Help with troubled kids not always easy to get
By JoANNE YOUNG / Lincoln Journal Star
If you’re at the end of your rope with your child’s behavioral problems, you have alternatives to the safe haven solution.
That’s what state officials and private agency heads said over and over after two youths — a 15-year-old in Lincoln, an 11-year-old in Omaha — were abandoned over the weekend.
State officials say there are alternatives — from nonprofit human services to help from public schools to state agencies, many of them low cost or no cost.
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- Parents and guardians can call 211 and access United Way information and referral services.
- Cedars has emergency shelters, which can be accessed by calling the 24-Hour Crisis Line, (402) 437-8888, or by going directly to the shelter at 6601 Pioneers Blvd. Cedars also has shelter services in the Broken Bow area.
But others say families can get frustrated by long waiting lists or costs that are out of reach for some low-income and even middle-income families.
Kathy Bigsby Moore, with Voices for Children Nebraska, said the use of the safe haven law for two older children this weekend illustrates Nebraska does not have a solid system of children’s behavioral health services.
The safe haven law, which went into effect in July, was originally designed to protect infants who were in danger of being harmed if left in an unsafe place. It also protects the parent or guardian from being charged with a crime.
But before the bill was passed, it was amended to include all children — even teens.
On Saturday, a Lincoln woman abandoned her 15-year-old nephew at BryanLGH Medical Center West, saying she couldn’t deal with his behavior problems.
In Omaha, a woman dropped off her 11-year-old son at a hospital, saying she could no longer care for him.
These cases — the first two under the law — point to a need for services that are not available, not readily available or are under-publicized, Moore said.
Families who have private health insurance or Medicaid coverage have more options, she said.
Both of the youths dropped off this weekend had Medicaid coverage, state officials said.
But Nebraska spends less on behavioral health services than most states, Moore said.
And it is among the lowest six states for eligibility for Kids Connection, health care coverage for qualified children that includes both the Children’s Health Insurance Program (CHIP) and Medicaid.
In most states, families who earn up to 250 percent of the poverty level are eligible, she said. In Nebraska and a few other states, only those at 185 percent or lower qualify.
Some states, she said, have even added general fund dollars to cover more children.
A few programs, such as Cedars, have emergency shelters, which can be accessed by calling the 24-Hour Crisis Line (402) 437-8888 or by going directly to the shelter at 6601 Pioneers Blvd. Cedars also has emergency shelter services in the Broken Bow area.
Public schools have social workers, counselors and psychologists who can guide parents to services in the community, said Marilyn Moore, Lincoln Public Schools associate superintendent for instruction.
At the same time, she acknowledged that mental health services for young people are frequently hard to come by because there are not enough providers.
The cost — and the wait — are issues in this community, she said.
“I wish it were otherwise,” Moore said.
For parents to be so far at the end of their rope they would release a child from their life is a dramatic and drastic step, she said.
Todd Landry, director of the children and family services division of the Nebraska Department of Health and Human Services, said a wide variety of services is available to Nebraska families, at different levels of intensity, beginning with the least restrictive care.
The services include parent education and skills building, respite care for families in crisis, counseling, therapy and substance abuse programs, and residential treatment programs, such as Boys Town in Omaha and Grand Island, Epworth Village in York, and Uta Halle Girls Village and Cooper Village for Boys in Omaha.
Parents and guardians can call 211 and access United Way information and referral services, Landry said.
Many agencies will do assessments and evaluations to determine the precise services children need, he said.
Some services are low cost or no cost, or have a sliding fee scale based on income.
In Lincoln, Family Services offers quarterly basic parenting skill classes. They are eight-week sessions that meet on Monday nights from 6-8 p.m., said June Baumgartner.
The classes cost $120 and grants are available. They are for new parents, young parents and those who are struggling with some aspect of parenting, she said.
Reach JoAnne Young at 473-7228 or jyoung@journalstar.com.

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I feel at my wit's end oftentimes with my 12 year-old daughter, but never in my wildest dreams would I entertain the idea of abandoning her.
I'm very sorry for the frustration these parents/guardians must have felt when they dropped these children off, but do they really realize what they've done? Do they realize the harm they have caused these kids? A newborn being dropped off doesn't realize it's being dropped off. But a teenager? How does he recover from that, knowing his parent didn't want him anymore? And what if the parent/guardian changes her mind? Is that allowed for in the bill? Even if the dropper-offer is allowed to take the teenager back, the damage has already been done. The child has already been made aware in no uncertain terms that he is no longer wanted. "
Rick wrote on September 16, 2008 3:53 pm:
Seriously wrote on September 16, 2008 4:10 pm:
The story says there are numerous services available for families with children in need. They may be present. However, from personal experience they are virtually impossible to access. When my son (5 at the time) was in a crises he was admitted to CAPS for suicidal and homicidal ideation. He was discharged less than 48 hrs later with a counselor’s appointment. We were not 2 blocks from the hospital and my son was telling me about the hallucinations he was having. After countless hours of searching for help I ended at a dead end. We survived each day out of luck. We utilized a couple of resources we found. One was a person who came into our home to try and teach me parenting tips. They left asking me what they should do because they did not have the knowledge necessary to understand our situation. This story sugar coats the actual problems that are present. Furthermore, it only makes parents of children with issues look worse in the eye of the uninformed public! "
April Sharpe wrote on September 16, 2008 5:10 pm:
I hope people will take more of an interest into the mental health and behavioral health of children. Not all kids with these issues come from bad parents. Believe it or not there are parents out there that want to help thier children but get turned down. I have a job and work, I have also lost jobs because of the issues with my son, even stayed home for 2 years to devote my time to him and it did not help. I just want to get him the help he needs. He is not a bad kid, he has great qualities about him too but he does need help. I want him to have a bright future and to be able to have his dreams come true.
Senators please listen to the parents of children with mental health and behavioral health issues. They are our future too and they need our help to get there. "
Denise wrote on September 16, 2008 5:10 pm:
Dagny wrote on September 16, 2008 5:28 pm:
Juan wrote on September 16, 2008 6:03 pm:
Unless you have been there wrote on September 16, 2008 6:21 pm:
Dee wrote on September 16, 2008 6:32 pm:
Andrea wrote on September 16, 2008 7:02 pm:
CS wrote on September 16, 2008 7:12 pm:
why wait wrote on September 16, 2008 8:00 pm:
Sue wrote on September 16, 2008 8:28 pm:
whatever wrote on September 16, 2008 9:16 pm:
Been there wrote on September 16, 2008 9:36 pm:
Phil wrote on September 16, 2008 10:28 pm:
it wasn't but a few weeks ago when this first hit the news that I said this would happen. yeah, that's right, I'm sayin' "Told Ya So!".
And what did I get? A bunch of folks basically saying I was stupid for even thinking it would be used this way!
Again, "Told ya so!" Now we gotta go back and fix the system, AND the bad parents. Way to go legislature and Ernie Chambers! "
Been there wrote on September 17, 2008 12:12 am:
A few years ago I had a son that suffered from mental health issues. He was bi-polar. He was a state ward, due to trouble with the law. He refused treatment and despite my fight, the state sided with my son in making him get treatment. So he received none. And his behavior became a danger to the family. One night in being so out of control and making death threats to his family and assaulting his dad, LPD was asked to intervene. Our son was told from here on out you conform to the rules or you get out. The son took it as we were throwing him out and LPD told us we couldn't do that. If we threw him out then we were guilty of child neglect and they would ticket us. The officers knew there were other children in the house and their safety was an issue but one officer explained to us that their hands were tied. Because he was a state ward, they could not remove him to anywhere without OJS's ok. And I firmly explained to the officer that he could not remain here. If he did then we ran the risk of losing the other kids, who were not blessed with mental health issues, to a system that already didn't care about our oldest. The officers and I had a stand off as I told them to ticket me, arrest me, I didn't care. Let me in front of a judge to explain the situation, but the son could not and would not be allowed to stay and continue his dangerous and threatening behavior. The officers decided to take him to Cedars for the night to settle the situation. However upon arriving at Cedars I got a call to come pick him up immeadiately. The state would not pay for his stay. They wanted him at home. So I did. The next day I get told that we need to continue the family counseling to resolve the issues. Counseling that they knew my son was not attending.
So I say hurray to the Safe Haven Law. Wished I'd of had the option a few years back because I would have used it. There were no options for us out there. Our son ran the show and this house. And since this battle, I have discovered many stories not far from mine.
Alternatives? What alternatives?
And for those of you who would never dream of abandoning any child, I dare you to walk a mile in someone else's shoes. Of course their are parents out there that think that a moody teen is the end of the world, but we aren't talking a little moody here. We're talking just down right dangerous. And you same people would be the first to scream where were the parents in all this if the child were to go out and hurt someone else. Remember Robbie Hawkins? Remember how the system failed him? There are plenty more kids out there as well as parents who the system continues to fail daily. All because the suggested alternatives are not availble. "
Former System Employee wrote on September 17, 2008 12:20 am:
To "Been There"...
While I think it's great that you and your daughter were finally able to get some help through the juvenile justice system (and I hope that her successes continue-- congrats to you both!), the issue is that there is little in place for our youths until AFTER they enter the criminal system... This is a tragic failure on the part of our human services system. "
Former foster parent wrote on September 17, 2008 6:34 am:
The "intent" is that if a bio parent cannot get their act together by the time their child has been a ward of the state for 15 out of the last 22 months their parental rights should be terminated. If that is the "intent", how come you can bring a baby home from the hospital born to a mother addicted to meth, the mother finally enters treatment on the 4th attempt whe the child is 18 months old and after 2 months, when the child is 20 months old, the state and the courts return the child to the bio mother.
Wake up Nebraska, the "intent" is not what happens in reality. There is too much room for interpretation.
Go ahead all you hardworking parents(ha!ha!), take you children to the hospital, claim Safe Haven and now the state, the taxpayers and the poor foster parents who get your messed up kid (probably messed up because you are a messed up and have been for years) will take care of them and pay for them until they are 19. Hurry up before the Senators mess it up again, maybe they will actually make it a crime to abandon your child, because right now it seems like it is totally legal.
Am I cynical? Yes! Do I trust the state or the court system to do what is best for Nebraska's children? Absolutely Not!
Speaking from personal experience. "
been there wrote on September 17, 2008 7:44 am:
Unfortunately, you are absolutely right. All the prevention in the world didn't work for us. The legal system was the only way to get the help we needed. It was a very hard truth to discover. When she was initially arrested for mip, I thought it was the worst thing that could happen. In fact it was the best thing, and only thing that would turn us around. "
Dr Juan wrote on September 17, 2008 7:49 am:
There really are Bi-Polar children. The term got "over used" by a few psychiatrists a while back. I remember when every kid who came into RYH in Kearney came out Bi-Polar. We laughed about at the time because it just wasn't true. But there have been a few, and I've treated them. Life is hell for a child with early onset Bi-Polar and its twice as bad for the family.
Back east I worked in a hospital. One of my jobs was to do ER evaluations for the Psychiatrist on call, report my findings and then manage disposition. Sometimes this meant placing a temporary hold on an individual and not allowing them to leave. This is known as an EPC, or Emergency Protective Custody. How shocked I was to find that here, in Nebraska, the local Police Department is tasked with making this determination! It should be done in a doctor's office or a hosptial. But no... not in Nebraska. Imagine that you are delusional and paranoid... and the POLICE show up to talk to you! I feel bad for the officers who are not trained medical professionals who must make these sorts of judgements, and I feel bad for the people who get handcuffed just because they are mentally ill. I will acknowledge that things are slowly getting better, but until mental health is managed by MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS, and not the Police, the state will always be liable for the charge of "criminalizing" mental illness.
Nebraska, join the 20th century. "
agreeing wwhy wait. wrote on September 17, 2008 8:52 am:
Novel Idea wrote on September 17, 2008 10:49 am:
That said, I feel for parent whose children have a mental disability therefore causing not easily fixed problems. But, from my experience as a social worker 99% of the time the behavior stems from bad parenting, nothing more. "
Social Worker wrote on September 17, 2008 12:24 pm:
BC wrote on September 17, 2008 12:48 pm: