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BY AMY WILSON / McClatchy Newspapers

Sunday, Sep 07, 2008 - 12:32:20 am CDT

LEXINGTON, Ky. — Sometimes a teenage girl’s biggest problem isn’t getting a guy to talk to her. It’s getting a guy to stop.

Christia Brown, assistant professor of psychology at the University of Kentucky, and Campbell Leaper, professor of psychology at the University of California Santa Cruz, asked 600 girls ages 12 to 18 about their experiences with sexism and sexual harassment.

What they found was nothing short of shocking.

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Professors asked 600 girls ages 12 to 18 about their experiences with sexism and sexual harassment. What they found was nothing short of shocking. (Jupiterimages)

For starters, nine out of 10 girls reported having been sexually harassed at least once. Those who were good at athletics were subject to sexist comments; so, too, those who were good at science and math. Girls’ appearances are openly commented upon; they are being touched.

And how they respond to these assaults depends on each girl’s background.

A recent conversation with Brown helped to illuminate further her study’s results:

Question: Do most teenage girls recognize sexist statements that are directed at themselves and their friends?

Answer: It is hard to know. There may be things that get said that go unnoticed. But we do know that almost all girls report sexist statements happening at least once. That means that they are recognizing it. We suspect they notice a lot more as well, but they discount it and try to forget about it unless it is so obvious there is just no way to ignore it. In other areas of research, we have learned that people admit it is sexism only when it is very obvious and there is no other explanation. The rest of the time they blame themselves, instead of the other person, for what happened.

Q: Do they understand sexual harassment? And in what ways do they define it?

A: We defined it for them by asking specific questions. We did not use the legal definition that adults know, but asked questions relating to any kind of negative or unwanted behavior based on the girls’ gender or sexuality. For example, a lot of girls mentioned receiving unwanted attention because of being a girl. Adults would not call this sexual harassment. But for girls, this was a real problem. They would have boys follow them around school and yell sexual comments at them in the hallway. Their examples were also more extreme. A lot of girls had been touched or grabbed by boys against their wishes. This was often having their breasts or butt grabbed — usually in the hallways or school bus. It was always out of eyesight of adults but often happened at or near school.

Q: Do they come to expect it in their lives?

A: Yes. This also seems to be part of the problem. It seems a lot of sexual harassment happens to girls, but they said, “Oh, that is just boys being boys. That stuff always happens.” They expect it so much, they never report it to any adults.

Q: I understand you found a difference in how girls from higher socio-economic levels experience sexual harassment than how girls from lower socio-economic levels do. Can you explain the difference, and why you think there is a difference? How about the difference between girls from different ethnic groups? Do some perceive some behaviors as OK while others don’t? Or is this also an issue of self-image?

A: We know that white girls tend to report more sexism than girls from Asian and Latino families. This may be due to differences in traditional gender roles. Some cultures have more traditional gender roles than other cultures. It seems that cultures in which men have a certain type of behavior that is expected of them, and women have a certain type of behavior that is expected of them, that the girls are less likely to report sexual harassment. We don’t know for certain, but we suspect that they just accept the behavior as more typical than girls from other cultures. African-American girls seem to experience a lot of sexual harassment. For African-American girls, they live in a culture in which the pervasive stereotype (from movies, music, music videos, TV shows, advertisements) is that they are very sexually active. This stereotype seems to affect how people treat them.

Q: Let’s talk about feminism for a minute. Do girls who know something about feminism experience sexism or sexual harassment more or differently than girls who might be more traditionally gender based?

A: They seem to be better at labeling it as sexism. For one, they know that sexism exists and that people can be treated differently because of their gender. Then when that does happen, they are less likely to blame themselves.

Q: How about female high school athletes? Do they face unique sexist challenges?

A: They often get comments about their sexuality or their inferior athletic abilities. However, we also know that those girls have the best outcomes of any girls in high school. They tend to have higher self-esteem and do well academically. They also tend to have better body images than nonathletes. We suspect it is because they view their bodies as powerful and use their bodies for a purpose, instead of just viewing their bodies as something that needs to be attractive for the opposite sex.

Q: In your study, you indicate that repeated sexual harassment tends to make high school girls blame themselves for the behavior of others. It also makes them feel bad about their bodies and erodes their self-esteem. Is there anything to be done about that?

A: It seems that the best way to counteract the effects is to actively deal with it. We know from other research that girls who try to act like it doesn’t bother them, who try to pretend it didn’t happen or who say it is just normal, are the ones who suffer the most. The girls who say something, either to the person making the comment or an adult, or girls who seek the support of a parent or friend, seem to be less affected.

Overall, we have learned that almost all girls experience sexist comments and behaviors. The key is how girls react to it. Do they internalize it and blame themselves, or do they blame the person making the comment and try to actively combat the statement?

If they internalize it, their self-esteem can go down, their body image can be more negative, and they do less well in school.

If they label it as sexism, and try to actively fight it (even if that is just complaining to their mom), they seem to be largely unaffected by the comments. The problem is that most girls internalize it. They seem to accept it as normal and don’t want to be seen as someone who takes things too seriously or rocks the boat. That is where the negative effects seem to come from.


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Seriously wrote on September 7, 2008 8:16 am:
" What a whiny article. Walk through Gateway some Saturday afternoon and open your eyes and ears. You'll hear just as many girls making comments about boys. Comments about their appearance? Common sense would tell you not to dress like a tramp then.

We tell girls to work hard to acheive, but when a woman rises on the political scene, the media shreds her at every opportunity. They did it with Ferraro, they did it with Clinton, and they are doing it to Palin.

Most of these stereotypes that cause "problems" are caused in large part by the news and entertainment industries to begin with. "

mike wrote on September 7, 2008 11:44 am:
" Not to condone anything but guys arent smart and look at how these girls dress. Its a no brainer when you are walking around almost naked that there will be problems. "

Sarah wrote on September 7, 2008 3:21 pm:
" I recall an incident that happened to me when I was in the 4th or 5th grade in the small Nebraska town which I grew up. Our church's minister had an after school all girls ministry group which met once a week. Invariably, the group ended up as a play time where he would chase us, flirt, & one time he grabbed me in a place I cannot describe here as he picked me up to carry me down to the church alter. He was always jovial & friendly. None of us understood what was going on because we were so young & always trusted our religious leaders. But I clearly understand now what happened & it makes me sick that I never even told my parents back then. Today, at the age of 53, I do not trust organized religion & I also wish they would get out of our national politics. "

andy wrote on September 7, 2008 5:31 pm:
" and almost all boys experiance sexist and harassing remarks from girls as well. big deal. whats the big news that children act like children? "

Eric wrote on September 8, 2008 10:02 am:
" This is hardly surprising to me. Women have realized (CENTURIES ago), that they could get the attention of men via their physical appearance. A lot of women use this to get mens' attention today, and some choose to complain about it. I find it interesting that this article includes a picture of a very thin, big-bosomed, young, and attractive female - as if they wanted to make sure to have our attention by using the seductive look of a very attractive young woman to draw us in to talk about how women are treated poorly because of unwanted attention, most of which is sexual in nature. Very hypocritical.
The world is full of many nasty things....but women still have ways to keep the unwanted attention away. First and foremost, don't dress like a hooker in public, know how to recognize unwanted attention, and learn how to avoid it and/or brush it off and get back to your life. This is what the vast majority of women do, and the jerk who is causing the problem has to go find someone else to annoy. Bottom line is that life is full of things like this and everyone needs to have a thicker skin and realize that we can't make the world perfect. Every jerky guy who acts like a sexist pig isn't going to be thrown in prison, so learn how to stay away from it and think highly of yourself! "

Lindsay wrote on September 8, 2008 11:37 am:
" A girl doesn't have to dress as a tramp to get unwanted attention. I worked in a fast food place in high school and I *always* got comments from a much older manager about what he would do to me if I was of age. At the time I didn't really understand and I just ignored the comments.

As I said, on the same token a young woman should be told that she can set limits if she feels uncomfortable. Also, young women she be taught that they can move on with their life. I never let comments get to me...and I think someone tends to have deeper esteem issues if she lets them get to her. "

Buford wrote on September 8, 2008 12:57 pm:
" I agree with Eric to a point. There are also many girls who just may be pretty but are a target even though they dress appropriately. It boils down to partental guidance teaching self respect and respect towards others. You can tell alot about the parent by the way the child acts. After the child gets into highschool, it becomes more an issue of peer pressure. What behavior accepted by peers is what will take place. Simplest rule: do unto others as you would have done to yourself. "

Kristine K wrote on September 8, 2008 1:22 pm:
" OH MY GOSH! Boom! Post after post proving that people DON'T GET IT. Blame on the females right and left. Someone looks at this girls boobs posted above the article---do you think I noticed that?? Wow. I am just sick to death of this mentality. The arguments I'm reading are weak, but obviously we're not dealing with real sophisticated people here, or you would be open minded to the point of the article. I've been sexually harrassed since I was 13--at 13 I had no idea how or why stuff happened, or that it was my fault that people said and thought horrible things about me because I was asking for it. (that was sarcasm)--How did I perpetuate this unwanted attention? I should have stayed home forever. I should have wore the kind of stuff they make the middle-eastern women wear.....and if I'd just shut up, and nobody could hear my thoughts or ever know that I existed, then I wouldn't have brought those nasty gropes upon myself. I wouldn't have asked for the filthy comments about my anatomy (parts of which I have no control over, size-wise, but yes--I should have hidden myself more) If I just could have controlled my walk, my size, my very existence.........right? Long and short of it is, until more men step up and say, 'Hey, that's not okay, I don't care what she says does or wears', we all get to be subjected to this hick caveman mentality. "

CS wrote on September 8, 2008 3:18 pm:
" Because you don't wear that 'stuff' to get noticed? If you don't like the choices of clothing that accentuate various attributes, then don't wear them, but don't speak for a gender that, by and large, wears less and less, younger and younger, and not expect them to get noticed and/or commented on. I would ground my daughter for a month if she wore more than what I seen pre-teens wearing at carwashes around Lincoln. You can't contribute to the problem, and then be a victim too. "

Nina wrote on September 8, 2008 3:30 pm:
" Not shocking - or new. For generations teens have been hung up on sex, but showing it was just more discreet in the past than it is now. As always, the guy makes a sexual comment, the girl reacts with disdain (they used to blush, but I don't think today's girls can manage that trick) but are secretly flattered. Only difference is, girls used to act and dress more demurely, no matter what their inner thoughts, and both sexes tended much less to act out their fantasies, in words or actions. "

Alex wrote on September 8, 2008 3:38 pm:
" The article, and the study, don't describe at all anything about the girls, their dress, their behavior or anything. Yet somehow commenter after commenter sees fit to blame the girls for the sexual harassment they receive. There's a word to describe this belief in stereotypes based on unavailable information or contradicting reality; sexism.

The insanity of the excuses in the comments is breath-taking. One commenter heard girls talk about guys at the mall. Therefore,... what? This is rank equivocation. Girls sexually harassing guys is something not only practically unheard of (or rarely heard of), but also rarely has the same impact in a culture geared towards male dominance.

The way young girls dress? The article didn't describe anything about their dress, so you have nothing to base this on! Further, as a man myself, the way some women dress has never forced me to make derogatory or lewd comments or grab a woman in the way the article describes. The key is restraint, thinking with your big brain not the little one. A culture which doesn't believe in restraint isn't going to see any restraint happening.

What the article and subsequent comments shows is a desperate need for a new feminist culture in Nebraska. For the sake of women in this state, I hope it happens soon. "

What a shame wrote on September 8, 2008 7:16 pm:
" that you think men are mislead by women's appearances.The place I get sexually harassed the most is at my church-under the guise of friendship!Don't ever hug a female or pat her in places without her permission to do so!We are not too stupid to differentiate a gesture of friendship to a lewd one.I'm in my 40's and my husband has had to tell some men to back off-he recognizes it for what it is.And I'm a conservative dresser.Just because you're attracted to a woman it doesn't entitle you to her attention or affections nor are you entitled to any reciprocity.And sexual harassment can be subtle and just as insulting when the slime ball is practiced at this. "

rolling eyes wrote on September 8, 2008 7:30 pm:
" I have to say I agree, the teens now dress very tight and revealing and well mostly trashy. Then say "he is looking at my breasts" I wish women or girls would care about who they are on the inside as much as what they look like. Save sex for marriage, care about yourselves a little!!

Sarah we are not talking religion, to not trust organized religion because of one sexual predator is ruining your whole life, you are only hurting yourself. Prayers for you Sarah! "

formerly harrassed wrote on September 8, 2008 8:11 pm:
" I can't believe how many of these comments are blaming the girls for receiving unwanted sexual comments or touches. Women shouldn't have to wear paper bags to avoid some idiot coming onto them sexually. It's natural to want to take care of yourself and have a pleasant appearance. As someone else mentioned, younger girls may not even have the ability to realize that what is happening isn't right. I would say that definitely would apply to what happened to me in junior high and high school. Perhaps today's clothing does invite more looking than some past decade's fashions, but you can look and think without saying and groping! That is where the line is crossed, and few here seem to get that. "

Matt wrote on September 8, 2008 8:44 pm:
" Yeah, girls looks are probably commented on by teenage boys. But guess what? I'm willing to bet there are plenty of teenage girls comment on the looks of teenage boys. I remember highschool and there was plenty of it going both ways. This article acts as though this behavior is something new. Give me a break.

No one is blaming the girls. But the bottom line is that both men and women are sexual beings. Teenagers are in the awkward position of understanding that and dealing with it simultaneously. "

Ned wrote on September 8, 2008 11:53 pm:
" Its all about objectification. Guys see a girl as an "object" to be used as a sex outlet and makes that kind of behavior ok in his head or sees a girl as a human like his mom or sister and treats her with respect sexy clothes or not. Its all in a guys upbringing. guys are brought up to be sexist jerks in Lincoln treating woman like objects. "

Newsflash wrote on September 9, 2008 10:22 am:
" Teenage boys are interested in sex, and many times act inappropriatly. Also, this just in, humans (and most other species with eyes) are sexually stimulated through visual impulses. I have an idea for their next questionaire: Do teens prefer high paying jobs or low paying jobs. "

Jen C wrote on September 9, 2008 10:43 am:
" I think that in order to be a strong, confident women who doesn't need to rely on her sexuality to get where she wants to be in life, it has to start at home, and at a young age. My daughters are 2 and 4 years old, and I teach them constantly, through words and actions, what they should be valued for: their intelligence and kindness, not how cute they are. You have to plant that seed early. We as mothers, aunts, sisters, women need to step up and be the role models these girls so desperately want and need. Stop leaving it to Britney and Miley and the Pussycat Dolls to show them how to be a woman. "

CS wrote on September 9, 2008 12:04 pm:
" Why do the girls get off scott free in the responsibility dept? The clothing is marketed with sex, it's worn with that in mind-Umbro shorts are perfectly fine on their own until some 15 year old girl rolls them up three folds and considers that clothes, or the soccer mom and her daughter that I saw at Taco Bell in South Lincoln the other night with matching Coach bags, and color coordinated thongs (not sandals). So no one is supposed to look at that? They certainly aren't making a huge effort to hide. "

Grow Up wrote on September 9, 2008 3:48 pm:
" #1: I've been sexually harassed while wearing basketball shorts and a hoodie. Hardly, "asking for it" if you ask me.

#2: Yes, women "check" men out and sometimes we even make comment to our girlfriends about how cute we think so and so is. The difference is that women, and I'm going to say generally because in the history of the world I'm sure there's been an exception, don't walk up to members of the opposite sex, pinch their rear, talk to a random body part as opposed to their face, or whistle and shout inappropriate comments.

#3: Even if a woman is "showing too much skin" it doesn't give anyone else the right to solicit her. (It's at this point I'd like to remind everyone that men aren't even required to wear shirts in public.)

#4: The young woman in the picture is wearing a long sleeved collared shirt... hardly trashy. A figure is a figure, they're hard to hide short from wearing a parka.

#5: A decent upbringing and self respect would do a lot of good on both ends... women reporting it and men controlling themselves. "

John wrote on September 9, 2008 4:46 pm:
" This is ridiculous that it is even an article. Women are just as guilty of this as men. I remember when I was in College, working at a retail clothing store, my female co-workers getting together in a little group and talking about my nice "rear". It happens to men more than people think; fact of the matter is that we just don’t care. Thank you ladies, I appreciate the complement (even if it is a little twisted).

And if you honestly think that women aren't asking for it by the clothes they wear, then you are in pure denial. I'm not saying you have to wear Middle Eastern garb, but when women’s jeans are designed to "lift and support" just as well as their undergarments, feel free to tell me that they are trying to draw attention to their "intelligence and personality".

Place the blame where you want, but the problem with the youth of today is with parenting, pure and simple. Parents aren't spending the time being involved with their kids anymore. The problem with men is when they are not taught how to properly respect women. I see attractive women all the time, that doesn't mean that I am pinching their tails, whooping and hollering. Guess which guy girls prefer to date? Do you think they are doing it to spite their parents? Women aren't taught to respect themselves and wonder why they get deadbeat boyfriends. Stop acting like the Paris Hiltons of the world, and maybe men will stop looking at you like the star of their next home video. "

Sarah Schroeder wrote on September 9, 2008 7:35 pm:
" Most of these comments suggest that only attractive women or women presumed to be sexually available are targets of sexual harassment. In reality, a lot of damaging sexual harassment is aimed at putting down people who are perceived to be different or unattractive—regardless of their gender or how provocatively they dress. Nevertheless, sexual harassment is wrong no matter how the victim chooses to present himself/herself. All of us are sexual beings, and most of us would like someone else to find us attractive. Judging from these comments, for a lot of people it’s a given that wanting to be liked should make us fair game for mean-spirited ridicule. I have trouble understanding why this should be the case. "