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Analysis: Jayci Yaeger's last wish a national story

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BY KENDRA WALTKE / Lincoln Journal Star

Saturday, Mar 29, 2008 - 10:09:01 am CDT

A Lincoln family’s quest to unite an imprisoned father with his dying daughter drew national attention for the past two weeks.

The Yaeger family’s story was first told in local media, often presented as “Jayci’s Last Wish.”

It spread quickly through mass e-mails. Bloggers weighed in.

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Jayci Yaeger (Courtesy Photo)
A question of justice

The story of Jayci Yaeger, a 10-year-old girl with cancer, and her father, a federal prison inmate, has generated national attention and untold numbers of comments from Web site readers. Here’s a sample of comments from JournalStar.com:



* “This little girl should have had her father with her while she faced death, regardless of his past behavior; this wasn't about him.” - John W. Reagan





* "If you do the crime, you do the time. No exceptions. You should have thought about your family before you messed with meth." - Justice, March 27



* “This warden is cruel and heartless. He may not be breaking any laws but I think he's breaking human kindness, empathy and kindness laws.” - Shelly L., March 21



* “It was a drug charge for goodness sakes, and he was sentenced under mandatory sentencing, which is just bunk in the first place.” - Come On! March 22



* “How many children’s lives did he ruin peddling his filth on our streets?” - Realist, March 21



* “Every inmate in every prison has someone in their family who has ‘extraordinary circumstances’ with which to deal . . . What constitutes a close family member? Not a road we should go down.” - Eddie, March 22



* “I think denying him and his daughter this one last moment is more punishment than he deserves, and more importantly, it's more punishment then she deserves.” - aj, March 22



* “The problem is not merely that they won't let the guy see his kid, but that they torture his family by implying that their pain is not severe enough to merit any action . . . That is the painful social issue that everyone here either consciously or unconsciously recognizes. Whose hardship IS "good enough"? Why do THEY merit special treatment and this family (or maybe US, if we ever find ourselves in such a situation) do not. It's not about compassion. It's about privilege.” - extraordinary justifcation, March 22

Within a day or two, national news networks were calling.

But why and how did the story spread so far so fast?

What would have happened if those first headlines instead had read, “Inmate Requests Special Treatment?”

The story of Jayci Yaeger’s last wish cut to the heart of many people’s notions of justice and mercy.

Readers, viewers and listeners raised questions about equal treatment under the law.

Others broached the subject of collateral damage — the effect a sentence can have on a criminal’s family or the victims of a crime.

From Lincoln and across the nation, e-mails and letters were sent — to the media and government officials — weighing in on the prison system’s requirement for and definition of “exceptional” and “extraordinary” circumstances.

And pressing hardest on the thoughts of most observers was not the legal quandary but the reported final wishes of a dying child, a 10-year-old girl who had been living with cancer since she was 2 and wanted her father at her side one more time.

Mixed feelings exploded all over the Web. Within minutes of an update on Jayci’s condition this past week, literally hundreds of viewers were reading the story on JournalStar.com. The number of “hits” quickly grew to thousands.

Some commenters said a child was bearing unfairly the pain of her father’s actions. Others said giving special consideration to one prisoner would create a slippery slope. Some comments couldn’t be printed.

“It’s a very difficult conflict of the principles of punishment,” said Robert Schopp, professor of law, psychology and philosophy, at the University of Nebraska-Lincoln. “There’s a lot of questions, but not a whole lot of good, clear principles to apply.”

“If you adjust sentences for third parties ... the sentences will deviate remarkably, depending on the circumstances.”

It’s not a subject people talk about often. Yet, “when it suddenly becomes visible in a case like this, it elicits a strong response. Of course, when you involve a suffering child, it will elicit a strong response.”

It’s a gut feeling, he said.

“The more you  think about it, the more difficult it becomes.”

Twenty years ago, the Jayci story likely would have touched many who read, saw or heard the story in and near Lincoln.

But what would have been a local story spread across the globe within hours via the Internet.

One online petition to grant Jason Yaeger a furlough to visit Jayci drew 865 names, from as far away as Switzerland, Spain, Germany and Venezuela.

A Journal Star reporter counted eight Facebook groups dealing with the Jayci story.

The story was told nationwide by CNN, CBS, ABC and other media outlets.

One abc.news.com story had  1,117 comments.

The Internet can give a local story steam because people, not news agencies, pass the story along by e-mail and blogs.

“It’s hard to know what causes a story to catch on,” said John Bender, associate professor of news editorial at the University of Nebraska-Lincoln.

“Certainly the fact that in this case you have a little girl dying, which is in itself tragic. And it appears people were very able to empathize with her feelings, and even with her father’s feelings.”

The ability or instinct of the family working with the media can help or hurt a lot, he said.

In this case, those who sympathized with the  Yaegers’ plight put a full-court press on federal officials, possibly causing them to relent Wednesday and allow Jason Yaeger’s final visit with Jayci.

“When you get people talking about a story, you build an acceptable interpretation,” Bender said.

Years ago, people would have discussed the Yaegers’ story over the backyard fence, at the barbershop or salon or at church.

“With the Internet, you have that continued beyond the very local level,” he said.

Reach Kendra Waltke at (402) 473-7303 or kwaltke@journalstar.com.


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D Riley wrote on March 29, 2008 5:30 am:
" I feel he did his time and should have been allowed to be here. People make mistakes but they learn and have to go on, just like you and me. I work with drug addicts everyday and see how lives change. If someone had not had faith in me 25 years ago, I wouldn't have had a chance after going through treatment for drug addiction. Some of you act like you never did anything wrong, and if you did it didn't affect anyone in a negative way. Thats BS and you know it. "

Jonna wrote on March 29, 2008 8:52 am:
" There are many people who are not able to be with their family in "extreme situations". Dad should have spent quality time with his daughter when she was able to enjoy him. He would not have missd this crucial time with Jayci if he had not broken the law in the first place he would have been with his wife and daughter and would not have missed ALL the crucial times in her life. "

menotyou wrote on March 29, 2008 10:15 am:
" Mr Yaeger was luckier then alot of people, a few weeks ago he was allowed to see his daughter and say good-byes, but yet the drama continues. He had the opportunity that many do not have: to be able to say a final goodbye.
There are many people out there who would like to have had that opportunity. Sudden death or accidents count for so many deaths and leaves many without closure that they deal with. Yet this family created drama and they had already gotten what so many yearn for.

Every act we do has potential reprecussions to ourselves, family and friends. Mr Yaeger's illegal activity put him in prison and it is his fault and no one else's that he couldn't be with his daughter more. As the old saying goes "If you can't do the time, don't do the crime" "

gracefirst wrote on March 29, 2008 10:16 am:
" This story highlights the problem in the U.S. of too many people in prison for non-violent crimes. What is often forgotten is the hardship suffered by the families of prisoner's. I have a brother imprisoned in another state who my aging parents may never see again because they are now too feeble to travel. How does prison make an offender change his ways when they are surrounded by other such offenders? Many need treatment and a chance to make positive changes in their lives instead. "

Dave wrote on March 29, 2008 10:22 am:
" From a grief standpoint, your heart natrually goes out to this family. Jason Yeager himself needs to come to terms with the disconnect he's caused other families by distrubuting meth. It's about time these criminals get a taste of what they themselves put upon the families of others. From a criminal justice standpoint and as a family member of one addicted to the drug Jason Yaeger chose to distribute, I really don't care if he doesn't get to go to his daughter's funeral. The warden granted the daughter's wish. She had no control over her father's bad choices. It's now time to punish the offender and not the victim. Don't allow this man to go to the funeral, warden!!! "

JG wrote on March 29, 2008 10:40 am:
" I feel the fight this family made and the efforts of friends and other's who helped used this fight as a (perhaps internal and unconscious) way of getting through the pain of losing this beautiful child. Sometimes we take on bigger problems or fights to get through the inner pain and hoplessness we are feeling on a fight we cannot win. "

do we know wrote on March 29, 2008 11:13 am:
" So do we actually know why he was selling meth in the first place? Could it be so that he could afford to pay for his daughters treatments and medical bills? People like to think that he was just some loser doing drugs instead of taking care of his daughter, but maybe the whole reason he was in this position in the first place was because he was taking care of his daughter. "

mark wrote on March 29, 2008 11:18 am:
" well said, JG. AND usually we prefer for anyone else to be our enemy, than to admit that we are harming ourselves more than anyone else possibly could. It's "comforting" to take on an enemy (bureau of prisons, etc.) than to put energy into our own change. victim mentality/distraction from our own failings can be very affirming - for a short time. "

former nebraskan wrote on March 29, 2008 11:55 am:
" im orginally from lincoln neb.. now living in central kentucky i have followed this story since it first hit the newspaper and i was touched that her father was able too see her one more time before she passed away, this child went too heaven knowing her daddy was there when she needed him the most... the IMPORTANT THNING IS HE WAS THERE....and yess i fully agree he should be allowed too attened her funeral and for those of you who think its wrong for him too get special permission too attend, that could have been your child, grandchild, or what ever who died and u was in jail...wouldnt you wanna go tho.........FINALLY... my heart and prayers go out too this childs family i hope in the near future u will find peace in your life...put your faith in gods hands and he will get you tho this terrible time in your life... GOD BLESS YOU! "

Nathan wrote on March 29, 2008 12:54 pm:
" Maybe the Federal prison system should consider changing it's policy so that the rules don't have to be bent like this. Can you imagine what will happen the next time a prisoner requests multiple furloughs for a family emergency and is denied? The conditions for this kind of situation need to be spelled out clearly. Otherwise, the Federal prison system has opened itself up to lawsuits of discrimination of all sorts and the entire system breaks down. What happens when the papers don't pick up other similar stories do to more important news that week or if the public decides they don't have sympathy for a prisoner for some reason unrelated to the unrelated to the crime itself. Judges should be making these kinds of sentences, not anonymous internet commentors or media outlets. "

DM wrote on March 29, 2008 1:34 pm:
" The most important thing in this whole story is that another beautiful child lost her life to cancer. I think that it should be left at that. I do not feel that many people understand the actual impact of losing another child to cancer actually has. The only thing, I feel, most people understood was that her father was in prison and wanted to be with his daughter, not the fact that she was dying. If the people with such negative comments were in the same position, would they feel the same way? Jason was a father, a daddy, before he was anything else. To Jayci, he was everything. He has learned more from his mistakes than most people in prison ever do, because he lost his daughter. This family has been through enough, without all of the negativity that people on these message boards portray. I would never wish these circumstances on anyone, but put yourself in their shoes before continuing to push hate and discontent. There are many people out there with a heart and soul, but it seems that there are also many without. It is those without that should adhere to the old adage: If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." There are so many that act as if they have never done anything wrong, and we all know that this is not the truth. This family lost their 10-year-old daughter, and it seems to me that they should be in our thoughts and prayers, not bashing the daddy for his wrong doings...he is and has been paying for these mistakes, and will for the rest of his life, in a way that very few of us will ever be able to understand. I feel that the whole story should be let go, but that the family and little Jayci remain in our hearts! "

GMP wrote on March 29, 2008 1:35 pm:
" Jonna-yes, Mr. Yaegar should not have broken the law. I do not think one of us out here sympathize with him and his plight. We were all thinking about the child. Mr. Yaegar will continue to do his time, and hopefully this tragedy has touched that place in his heart/brain so that he will never again put at risk his precious time with his family. But we are not the ones to judge. As for any future cases, I think they should be taken one at a time. "

A FederalCop wrote on March 29, 2008 1:46 pm:
" Well she is gone and the venom continues. The fathers sentence was for the drug charge. He is being punished for that and will contnue to serve his sentence. That has not been deviated from one iato. However, it was right for the Warden to allow him to be by his daughters side in her final momemt and it will be right for the warden to allow the father to attend her funeral. We have become such a narrow minded angry society that is seemingly loosing all focus of compassion and christianly love. As a Federal Police Officer in Washinton DC i often times have to arrest people for breaking the law, the prosecutors try the case and the judges decide the sentences based on the law. My job ends with that person after they go to court. I do not harbor ill will against them and hope only that the sentence they get will help they seek a more positive course to follow if they ever get out. But to stay angry at them for breaking the law, what a waste of energy. Give this little one and her family break. They all have suffered enough and to have mean and angry people that know nothing but to spue their venom into the world is just an insult to this great country and what the good compassionate people stand for. "

MS wrote on March 29, 2008 2:31 pm:
" This is certainly an unfortunate situation for Jayci's family. However, I did have to wonder whether, if they were people of color, the media coverage would have been as extensive or the outpouring of sympathy as great. I doubt it. (In case it matters to anyone, I'm Caucasian.) "

Me wrote on March 29, 2008 3:43 pm:
" "Do we know"---why he was selling meth in the first place? At one time, a relative (his brother?) said in a news story that Jason turned to drugs because he couldn't deal with Jayci's cancer. From using to selling to prison. The idea he was selling meth to pay bills doesn't do anything to promote compassion as selling meth only causes pain for others. Even if that had been his motivation, Jason and his family would've been better served if he'd simply gotten a second job. He certainly wasn't thinking of Jayci when he turned to drugs whatever the reason. "

DC Husker wrote on March 29, 2008 5:06 pm:
" Federal Cop: Thanks for your compassionate post. If a DC cop can have compassion, so can you "heartlanders." "

plainsmart wrote on March 29, 2008 5:12 pm:
" Extraordinary circumstances?! Compassion should not be dished out by some criteria. When someone is trying to do the right thing for the right reasons - get out of the way! Do it. The daughter did not deserve such inhumane, insensitive treatment. Her dad was offering his best self & his deepest feelings... Which have to be approved? Such nonsense. Doesn't help reduce crime, either. Or lessen drug use. Those who want vengeance should not be allowed to make such decisions. And, thank you LJS for not using the inflammatory, insensitive alternative headline. There are some things that are just human, decent. And just. As has been said the law and justice are not necessarily on the same page. "

To "A Federal Cop" wrote on March 29, 2008 5:32 pm:
" Being a "Federal Cop" means that you would have also seen the damage that drug suppliers have inflicted on their victims. In your line of work I would imagine that you come in contact with drug abusers all the time. I believe you're forgetting that people like Mr. Yaeger helped to contribute to their fate. Where is your compassion for those victims? Yes, he is doing time, but not the sentence that was originally handed down. Quite a bit less actually. Plus he has been released from prison a couple of times already. You said "spue venom into the world is an insult to this country & what the good compassionate people stand for" I think the "insult" to this country has been to allow criminals to get away with lesser sentences, furloughs and not having to be accountable for their actions. This is an unfortuate story, but Mr. Yaeger knew what he was doing was wrong. He plead guilty to the charge. He was doing this while his daughter was battling cancer. Where was his compassion for his daughter when he chose to break the law and run the risk of being separated from her at a time when she really needed him? Where is your compassion for the family of the dead drug addict that you found on the street because they were able to obtain their drugs from people like Mr. Yaeger? "

CJS wrote on March 29, 2008 6:43 pm:
" We need to stop and think about this. He is no father of the year in this deal. She has had this cancer longer than he has been in prison. Where was he when she needed him? "

Kathryn L. wrote on March 29, 2008 6:57 pm:
" this is a tragic story, i can only imagine half of the pain that that little girl went through. i too also had grown up with my father in prison, i used to love my father so untill i realized what he had went to prison for.

i think that the state should have allowed the father to visit his daughter more frequently during her time of great need. she deeply missed her father, and she had made it clear that it was her final wish to see her father one last time.

sure he got to visit her for that one last time, but i think, even with his stupid actions that landed him in prison for the first place, that he should have been able to spend much more time with his daughter.

if i were the father, at this point i would completely give up on life, and just let go like his daughter did.

my prayers and hopes completely go to this family. this story has snapped me out of my petty little problems, and helped me realize that my life could be a heck of a lot worse. i can feel the loss for the family, and wish for the best. "

Kathryn L. wrote on March 29, 2008 7:09 pm:
" oh, and yes the story of her may have spread fast, but what does this have to do with the bitter anguish that her family had to experience for the last days of her life "

teressa j gomez wrote on March 29, 2008 7:46 pm:
" As sad as this story is I am sure there are at least 100 more inmates with dying family members. This is not an isolated case, its the one that got the attention of the media. Mr. Yeager should have weighed the consequences of his actions before he made the decesion to deal drugs.
He did the crime and he must do the time. He had already been granted at least two escorted visits with Jayci and he did get to go back and say good bye again. Now he is asking for early release to be with his other daughter. He has been and still is playing the media and the public. I am glad for Jayci that she got to see her father one last time. He was asking for a 30 day furlough, this is unacceptable and I believe the right decesions were made. I hope that anybody reading this story will think twice before committing a crime and know that suffering is part of the jusicial system and not only do they suffer but their family and children especially. "

Oh Brother wrote on March 29, 2008 10:23 pm:
" Good grief....a federal cop knows more about the damage done by drugs than some moralist preaching from a prairie pulpit. You Nebraskans spouting such negativity reek of hypocrisy because you are always claiming to take the high moral ground with those so-called Midwestern manners. "

So Sorry wrote on March 29, 2008 11:20 pm:
" My thoughts and prayers are with the Yaeger Family in their time of sorrow. I can not even imagine the heartache that you are going through at this time. I honestly have had mixed feelings about this case up until about Thursday night and it became clear to me. I do not believe in what Jason did (as there are other ways to deal with tragedy), I am not saying it was right, and I do believe he should serve his time, as people say for doing the crime. But I commend the Warden for granting Jayci her last wish. I would want my child's father there if God forbid something happened to him, no matter what he did. No matter what he is Jacyi's father and has a right to be able to say goodbye. I hope people will remember that this was Jacyi's final wish, not Jason's, and this little Angel deserved to have her wish come true. I have read a lot of the blogs that have been written about this, my feelings and how I was raised, if you don't have something nice to say don't say anything at all, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but the Yeager family is going through enough right now, they don't need to hear everyday about how bad what Jason did was, they know this, they are living it everyday. No one knows what he was thinking when he turned to drugs, leave them alone, and let them grieve without all the critisim and hatred. Again my thoughts and prayers are with you at your time of sorrow. To Jason, I hope for your sake that you are able to turn your life around and also are able to be at Jayci's funeral so you will be able to have closure. God Bless!! "

Should know better wrote on March 30, 2008 11:02 pm:
" Just because you are a federal cop(whatever that is)doesn't mean you know anymore than some of the midwesterners. I know several "federal cops" and most of them never get dirty in street level enforcement where Jason Yeager was doing his dirty deeds. He got to see his daughter and that was great, now, finish your sentence, get out and become a real father to your daughter. "

Daniel wrote on March 31, 2008 8:57 pm:
" My Father is the brother of the mother of Jayci, if that makes sence. I moved to WA in 98' so for all I know I could have seen her when she was a tiny baby. I don't know all of what Jason has done. But I can tell you, from my experience of being a kid, while his mom was or babysitter, John, Matt, and Jason were the coolest older kids in my life, at that time. To cut a long story short, Jason was a cool guy and he, along with his brothers, kept my sister and I very entertained and in no way had a bad influences on us, my bad influence came later in life. There is no way that a nice kind-loving person such as Jason, should be away from his daughter in a time like this. I'm sorry, love to the Yeager's. "